‘Grey’: ‘Unfair to place burden of change on girls; onus must be on folks in positions of energy, male actors,’ say Dia Mirza and Shreya Dhanwanthary

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Consent is a topic not many Bollywood movies or film stars tackle, however Shreya Dhanwanthary and Dia Mirza are altering that with the discharge of ‘Grey’. The actress, of their newest quick movie, got down to educate, enlighten and empower people, younger and outdated on the significance of consent, drawing boundaries and extra.

In a chat with ETimes over a video name, the actresses get trustworthy about why they signed on for the movie, how they hope to alter the ‘no means sure’ narrative and the stalker tradition in Bollywood and even weigh in on how males in energy have monopolised establishments which have girls going through the brunt. Dia additionally shares how she hopes this Amazon miniTV quick will empower younger folks, together with her personal children, to set boundaries and supply them with instruments to sort out disagreeable conditions.

Inform us just a little about your characters and what made you signal on for this venture.

Shreya: I do not understand how a lot of the story we may give away, as a result of it’s a very delicate type of topic. It’s concerning the strains folks generally cross with out even realising it. It speaks concerning the necessity of getting a boundary and being snug in your personal area and what to do if there’s a violation of that area. The stunning Dia Mirza performs a therapist that my character goes to when a sure violation occurs with boundaries, areas and consent and the way they navigate the state of affairs collectively.

Dia: Consent is truthfully one thing that we as a society have not totally understood. Check out the information and you may see the sort of issues that occur round us. Consent is one thing we now have simply not understood. We now have this massive debate occurring proper now about marital rape, so I believe that consent is one thing we should always all study and perceive higher. Probably the most thrilling half about being part of this story was that this was a chance to coach folks and assist them study and perceive one thing so delicate and easy. And as Shreya mentioned, it has been dealt with very delicately, and intelligently, and it’s one thing that may communicate to lots of people. I hope it’s watched extensively as a result of it’ll assist lots of women and men navigate their relationships extra responsibly.

Each single girl would relate to this story, as a result of each single certainly one of us has been by means of one thing like this at some stage or the opposite. That is what units this other than the opposite movies.

Dia Mirza

You each play these emotionally heavy roles, how did you each prep for the half?

Shreya: I do not assume the phrase ‘sufferer’ is true right here. Individuals need assistance as a result of we do not know the best way to navigate conditions in our lives, like once we are overloaded mentally, and emotionally. I believe psychological well being has additionally not been given as a lot of a highlight in our nation. As a lot as the subject has been mentioned over the previous years, it’s not the place it must be. Grey tackles a topic that’s so pretty as consent is one thing that we now have not talked about, intercourse schooling is one thing that does not exist, and there are such a lot of issues that are not even mentioned. After they aren’t mentioned, how do you realise that one thing has gone flawed? And, if one thing has gone flawed, how do you discuss it? Do you may have the instruments that may assist you cope with one thing like that? There are such a lot of issues that we do not discuss, so navigating that system turns into one thing completely totally different. I would not use the time period ‘sufferer’, and would not essentially say that there was some type of prep concerned other than the unlucky truth that every one of us have gone by means of one thing that we nonetheless do not know the best way to cope with.

Dia: I believe that may be a very pertinent level that Shreya has made. One of many first reactions I had, once I learn the script, was the truth that each single girl would relate to this story. As a result of each single certainly one of us has been by means of one thing like this at some stage or the opposite. That is what units this other than the opposite movies. So far as the prep to play a therapist is worried, it’s only to return to the periods with empathy, be receptive and actually take heed to what the particular person in entrance of you is telling you.

I have been in remedy and I’ve benefitted from it. I believe it is crucial for us to normalise the idea of in search of remedy as a result of it’s one thing that sooner or later in our life we must be snug doing. One other benefit of being part of Grey is to normalise remedy. It’s such an integral a part of the story and it’ll make folks snug about going to remedy.

Shreya: It’s a heavy topic and I hope we now have carried out that with grace.

The thought of that is to strategy it with empathy and know that some persons are additionally not taught about boundaries, asking for consent, noticing the non-verbal indicators and feeble makes an attempt to say ‘no’.

Shreya Dhanwanthary

He would not keep in mind the night time the best way I do… was a line that stood out within the trailer. How does your present get a person to see the world by means of the eyes of a girl?

Shreya: I do not assume the purpose of our quick is to get anybody to see it by means of the purpose of any specific gender. Sadly, what Dia mentioned, girls have been on the receiving finish no matter age, stature or forged. The thought of that is to strategy it with empathy and know that some persons are additionally not taught about boundaries, asking for consent, noticing the non-verbal indicators and feeble makes an attempt to say ‘no’. All of us do not have the mandatory instruments to have the ability to arise for ourselves. To say no is a really vital talent, however I do not assume all of us have that.

Dia: Even for the person who could also be experiencing what they’re. That is what makes Grey much more distinctive. I believe it’ll assist folks recognise that if you end up in a state of affairs your self, why is it that you could be not have the ability to refuse one thing the best way you might be anticipated to. Generally it may be arduous to say no, how do you say it? That’s an space that is by no means been explored earlier than. It’s so vital. I do know if I had watched this once I was youthful, it could have given me lots of views and helped me cope with an identical state of affairs higher.

Shreya: Particularly when it includes somebody you understand, saying ‘no’ turns into more durable.

I do know I’ve performed a giant half in normalising this ‘stalker tradition’. I believe the extra folks get educated, and fortunately with a movie like Grey, extra folks ought to get educated.

Dia Mirza

Talking of consent, how do you assume Bollywood performed a job on this ‘No means sure’ narrative? And the way do you as girls within the trade hope to alter it?

Dia: Why do not we simply flip this round and say that there was a movie that got here alongside that actually helped the trade for the primary time query consent. There was a really highly effective line ‘No, means no’ and there have been many debates that occurred on the time. I do know I’ve performed a giant half in normalising this ‘stalker tradition’. I believe the extra folks get educated, and fortunately with a movie like Grey, extra folks ought to get educated. We should always most likely change and create our narratives. Fortunately, Shreya and I aren’t part of these tales anymore.

Shreya: I need to flip the query much more as a result of I believe it’s unfair to place the burden of change on girls once they do not management a lot. Sadly, in a rustic like ours, it must be a trickle-down impact. Sadly, once more, we’d like folks in positions of energy. We want male actors, individuals who command the large paycheque, have the ability or stroll into boardrooms and make stuff occur, it could be nicer if the onus of change had been upon them as a result of they’re truly the movers and shakers and never the people who find themselves on the receiving finish of it.

Dia: Sakshi is barely the second feminine director I’ve labored with. We want much more illustration of our gender for issues to alter. And wherever that’s occurring, we’re experiencing change.

We want male actors, individuals who command the large paycheque, have the ability or stroll into boardrooms and make stuff occur, it could be nicer if the onus of change had been upon them as a result of they’re truly the movers and shakers and never the people who find themselves on the receiving finish of it.

Shreya Dhanwanthary

Whether or not it was the Kangana Ranaut-Hrithik Roshan case or the Me Too motion in Bollywood, and even the Amber Heard-Johnny Depp case, why do you assume it’s so arduous for girls to consider girls, for girls to assist girls?

Shreya: I do not assume that’s true. I believe it’s a narrative that’s created that ladies are the worst enemies of ladies. I do not assume it’s a factor about girls not believing girls, it’s a normal factor about society not believing girls.

I believe there may be lots of notion when it comes to media and society that makes use of sure phrases once they check with girls. In headlines when there’s a case of assault or rape, it’s all the time, ‘A girl acquired assaulted’ and by no means within the energetic voice ‘A person raped a girl. There’s a sure language and conditioning that has tipped the scales within the favour of one other gender. And normally, those going through the brunt facet of it had been girls.

Dia: That’s once more as a result of the boys have monopolised the narrative. They run many of the establishments. It simply boils right down to that.

There’s a sure language and conditioning that has tipped the scales within the favour of one other gender. And normally, those going through the brunt facet of it had been girls.

Shreya Dhanwanthary

Dia as a mom, what’s your message to all moms, whether or not they have sons or daughters?

Dia: Now once I do work, I do it asking myself how my kids are going to reply to this story? Is that this one thing that may assist them study, perceive and reply to be extra empathetic? I do consider our children will get one thing from this and it’ll empower them. I hope that I can proceed to be part of such narratives. Personally, I really feel justified about going away from them, in any other case, it simply hurts an excessive amount of to be far-off from my infants.

Shreya, how was co-starring with Dia totally different from working with Dulquer Salmaan, Sunny Deol in ‘Chup’ or Nawazuddin Siddiqui in ‘Adbhut’?

Shreya: You must ask them truly. All three of them have been “victims” this time I’m utilizing this phrase. They’ve been victims of my incessant singing. Each single particular person has confronted this torture and I’ll proceed to do that. It has been EPIC!

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